Who is Coach Nic?

And Why Exactly Should I Listen to Him, Let alone Hire Him!?

My Luxury Prison of Loneliness & Addiction

Against his parent's wishes, my Father came to the USA from Sicily, Italy to marry a woman he met once

in Rome. They communicated over the phone, and through snail mail letters for 2 years. Eventually he

became completely love sick and tormented by being apart from her so he borrowed $500 from his uncle

to venture to America. And in 1976, with nothing but the money left over from buying the plane ticket,

and the clothing he was wearing – he arrived in Morton, Illinois to marry this woman who was to be my

Mother.

I was born in 1981, and from then on my father was an entrepreneur and was very successful with a pizza

parlor, and later with an International Food Importing & Branding Company that he created from scratch.

This company is still in existence today, and has made my Father very wealthy. Throughout that journey

from being a broke immigrant who didn't speak English, to a multi-millionaire who became a living

legend in Central Illinois... was a very difficult road.

My parent's relationship was similar to World War II – in that, they meant well, but there were many

explosions, death, and casualties of war. It was an absolute shit show mixed with lot's of love. It was a

great recipe for lots of trauma and mental illness.

Even though he was financially wealthy, he and our family was rotting from every other area. My Father

was all but completely absent from raising us or teaching us anything constructive. My Mother was

mostly doing damage control, and was just trying to get through each day.

As an adult, I always wanted to make my Dad proud so I tried working with him building his business

over the years. But the business relationship never lasted more than a year at the most. Today, he is a

different man. We talk often and we have a great relationship. I'd rather he remain my Dad who I admire,

than my shitty employer who I resent.

Once I left home, I became an entrepreneur and started a few different businesses and worked for a bunch

of different companies in my 20's. By the time I was 28, I found an industry that I thought I could make

millions based upon my skills, talents, and abilities. I founded a Private Mortgage Trading business that

would use my skills in marketing, sales, real estate, and banking. I excelled at it and the company grew

rapidly.

The part that I wasn't able to handle was all of the stress from having to

perform at work as an office manager, marketer, employer, salesman, and

banker meanwhile being a father, husband, provider and lover.

Instead of learning how to cope with my stress in healthy ways, like exercise, mindfulness practices like

journaling, painting, reading, meditating, or even just watching TV... I would drink alcohol late at the

office and smoke weed and cigarettes late into the night. Then my wife would get mad at me for getting

home so late, so then I would leave the house and numb my pain even further by going to a local bar and

drinking more. Often I would end up at a strip club or a casino to escape my feelings even further. Some

days I wouldn't even make it to the office, and I would go right to the casino to escape my reality of the

day before it even started. Basically, I became a well dressed dirt-bag, drug-addict, alcoholic, gambling

addict, womanizer who drove a nice car, had a fancy Country Club membership, and other external

statuses.

Meanwhile, my wife was distancing from me, my physical health was deteriorating, my mental health was

disintegrating, and I was morally rotting on the inside.

I was repeating my Father's legacy. External success with internal hell and absolute chaos at home.

Little by little, my addictions grew and grew until my employees started catching wind of what was

happening and they too would slack off at work, let others down, and finally either quit or I thought it was

them, and I would fire them. But really... I was just a shitty boss, a poor role model, and a terrible leader.

My life was a fucking mess!

From 28 years old to 40 years old – in 12 years – I went from being single and

broke to being a married millionaire – to single and broke again.

Why?

It all boils down to my inability to cope with stress in healthy ways, my

unwillingness to feel uncomfortable having difficult conversations, letting

the little boy inside of me get angry when the world isn't the way I want it

to be, and my fear of facing my problems head on.

Instead... I learned to escape my feelings with drugs, alcohol, porn, strip

clubs, gambling, and basically anything that would numb me from my

reality of just living.

The problem is that escaping with drugs, alcohol, sex, porn, gambling, etc is only a temporary fix.

These unhealthy coping mechanisms begin to exacerbate the stress inside you.

They amplify the pain you are feeling of living.

They multiply the impossible standards placed upon you as a man.

They hide you from the world.

They weaken you.

The emasculate you.

Then you feel like a loser → so you escape.

Then you feel shame because you weren't strong enough to resist your cravings or urges → so you

escape.

A vicious cycle of feeling an uncomfortable feeling (this is called a Trigger, like shame, emotional

discomfort, frustration, anger, maybe physical pain, anything you don't like), which then causes a familiar

response to that feeling (this is called a Routine), which ultimately leads to a Reward ie In these cases,

escaping the uncomfortable feeling and numbing myself. Which then leads to me feeling ashamed,

disappointed in myself, and feeling like a loser, so then I would escape that feeling!

The cycle looked like this: Bad Feeling → I get frustrated → I get angry → I can't handle the

feeling → I escape in some unhealthy way to get immediate relief → Immediately feel better → A bad

feeling comes back → I feel like a loser → I can't handle the feeling → I escape → I don't immediately

feel better → I escape some more → I feel a little better → I pass out → I wake up with anxiety, less

money, and feeling like shit → I feel like a loser → I escape.... etc etc etc.

I would break this cycle every 2 to 3 weeks because I would either run out of money or I would feel so

terrible - I was forced to change. Then I would be on a good path for a few weeks and then the cycle

would start all over again.

And the cycle always started with the same LIE I would tell myself.

The LIE would go like this:

“Nic: You've been doing so good lately. You've gotten so many things accomplished. You really do feel

bad right now – this time it will be different. You'll get high just tonight... and then you'll get back on

track tomorrow.”

Many times, I'd tell myself that lie... And in the course of 6 hours I'd get high, then wonder into a bar, then

start gambling at the slot machines because I was lonely – or ashamed that I had a wife at home who was

waiting for me – then find myself at a strip club, then, then, then... $600 or $700 less in my pocket. I

would almost always do these behaviors by myself as well. Because if I just hung out with my friends, I'd

usually just stay in one place, drink a few, and not get out of control.

After this Long Journey...

I Realized that I was Really Searching for

Purpose and Genuine Human Connection.

I hated what I did for a living. It was so transactional and devoid of meaning. However, I also couldn't

see how my own addictions were preventing me from finding meaning in the work. It was so stressful,

and I'd pour so much time into a deal and statistically only 50% of the deals I signed up, made it to the

closing table. I didn't see a single human face all day long. Not even my wife's face or my baby's face. I

would leave the house before she got up, and I would get home after she was asleep. If I did see her

during the week, we were just talking about tasks that needed to get done.

Even my employees worked from their own homes or in offices that were separate from mine.

I literally wouldn't see another human face, nor speak to anyone face-to-face for weeks on end... unless I

was up to no-good... drinking, smoking, and gambling... then I would speak to a bar tender, cocktail

waitress, or stripper.

I was alone,

behind a screen,

in my

luxury-solitary-confinement-prison.

In those 12 years, I made millions and lost them all.

I built a family and a business – and only a shell remained of them both.

My younger sister is clinically insane, and doesn't talk to anyone in our family.

My younger brother died at 38 from a drug-overdose.

My mother is a hoarder.

My father is a hermit.

But in the last 4 years,

I completely transformed my life.

I'm alcohol and drug free.

I have a handle on my sex addiction.

I no longer consume porn.

I don't walk into bars, casinos, or strip clubs.

I have a handle on my social media addiction.

I lost my “beer belly” and

I'm in the best shape of my life.

I no longer binge at all-you-can-eat-buffets.

And, I'm more mindful of my food choices.

I don't smoke cigarettes and I quit weed.

I don't consume THC products.

I no longer lose my breath when I bend over to tie my shoes.

I no longer get winded when I take the groceries in the house.

I don't take any pharmaceuticals.

I don't let my emotions control me.

I don't make excuses!

I AM on track to Making Millions Again!

I AM A GOOD ROLE MODEL to MY DAUGHTER!

I AM Engaged to Be Married to My Dream Girl

whom I met when I was 14 years old!

I AM a Strong Leader who my Fiancee Listens too!

I AM in Control of My Life!

I AM Living On Purpose Everyday!

I AM The Man I Always Knew I Could Be!

I AM an Alpha Beast!

I AM Coach Nic.

The Game That Never Ends –

A Game That I Can Play Forever...

(Well... For the rest of my life... )

I AM on a mission to become the best version of myself, and help other men take control of their lives

and reclaim their freedom, dominion, and power over their lives.

I AM never going to stop improving myself.

I AM never going to stop reaching out to my sister.

I AM never going to cower away from my feelings, and try to escape myself.

My Identity has changed from a liar and cheat to

an Alpha Warrior forged in Fire who always makes the right choice!

This didn't happen overnight. Through lots of trials, errors, lots of slip ups, and near death experiences – I

NEVER GAVE UP and I learned the way forward.

You don't have to take this road...

Maybe you already have.

Maybe you weren't as bad,

maybe you were worse.

I NEVER JUDGE ANYONE'S CIRCUMSTANCE.

THERE IS NOTHING THAT WILL SURPRISE ME.

YOU CAN TELL ME ANYTHING YOU WANT, AND I WILL TAKE THAT INFORMATION AND

SHOW YOU HOW TO USE IT AS FUEL TO FEED TO YOUR NEW IDENTITY AS AN ALPHA

BEAST!

THERE AREN'T ENOUGH WORDS IN THE WORLD TO DESCRIBE HOW FUCKED UP MY LIFE

HAD BECOME!

Instead of staying stuck in these cycles of addictions for another 5 years...

I will help you re-build your identity from the ground up – in just 6 months.

Every area of your life will improve through my program.

You'll become get healthier, wealthier, feel better, become more confident, control your emotions, control

your cravings, and develop healthy coping mechanisms to life's challenges.

My name is Coach Nic, and this is my life's work.